How was my first e-book born? Purely out of my own experience and need! I really wanted to know more about life and wasn’t willing to accept the situations I had allowed myself to fall into. I’ll tell you my story.
Most of my life, I’ve lived somewhat fumblingly – you kind of know what your dream life should be like, but for some reason, your mysterious alter ego Maria doesn’t want you to progress. It feels like I’ve accomplished something in life, but the real Maria tells me I haven’t achieved anything! There’s still so much ahead!
But that other me, who holds me back, constantly whispers that everything is actually more or less fine. There’s no rush, and every time I set a goal, you get lifed. Totally! Like holding a motorcycle meeting in front of the parliament; I got my first fracture right before it! Oh, I have so much more to learn and apply to not let myself be distracted by such situations.
Anyway, what I wanted to say is that I haven’t really known how to set long-term goals in my life. To set a goal and truly, despite “you get lifed” situations, keep gradually moving towards my goals. I’ve somehow felt like, oh, what about me. Oh, who am I to accomplish something great. But deep down, you actually know your calling, desires, dreams, and goals.
These dreams just need to be turned into goals. Then set a plan and align the rest of your daily life around this most important task. I am really trying to apply all of this in my life right now because by constantly doing the same things, we get the same results. But I no longer like those old results! I want and need changes! Honestly, being away from my homeland for almost half a year completely changed my worldview.
Now I truly know what I want from my life, what I want to do, how I want to live. And I allow all of it to pleasantly evolve – it’s not set in stone, but I know where I want to get to. I used to be so wishy-washy, but life teaches, and you have to learn too. You have to learn a lot – apply – learn – apply.
Last summer, I set myself the ambitious goal to work on motospirit.ee, which has been my dream for many years. To finally engage in motorcycle journalism. The first time I tried to set this as my goal, Elistin unexpectedly and luckily came into our lives. The second time, my eldest daughter’s health condition knocked me off track – try writing articles when you see your child suffering.
And what do you think, how did this prolonged situation affect my mental health and work? Kaboom! Everything was back to zero! Zero focus, zero dedication to work goals. I simply couldn’t manage. And then on top of that, my own injuries! Try managing with crutches and other injuries while taking care of three children and handling work matters. So we decided to take off, hoping that maybe a stay in the south would help us recover both mentally and physically.
Packing with a fresh fracture and crutches was quite an ordeal. Pointing with a crutch at one box and then another, saying please put this in the bus and that one too. Luckily, one of the boxes contained all my papers. All my notebooks that I had filled over the years with all sorts of fascinating information on self-development. I had actually applied many of these things to my life and progressed tremendously, though some topics just get forgotten if not practiced. Since I was very low mentally at that moment, I was happy that box came along! I started reading through my materials and recalling old topics on how to support myself during tough times. Practicing. New thoughts were born from the old notes.
All those thoughts that I had started writing down after Indy Mari was born had been very beneficial for my development path. But since I was falling into a place that seemed so dark, I needed a boost. I started extracting the most important thoughts, exercises, and tools from my notes just for myself, so that when a difficult situation arose again, I could better and more quickly think my way out of it.
Thus began the formation of a collection of valuable ideas on my computer. Initially dedicated to myself and my family. Until one day, I found myself thinking that if this information had helped me improve my quality of life and deal with difficulties, maybe it could help someone else too? Maybe I should push my modesty into a dark corner and actually compile a book with valuable thoughts? So be it! Even if no one else reads it, I need it for myself. And perhaps it will serve as a nice supportive foundation for my children in the future, based on what their mother relied on during a certain period of her life. But let’s be flexible – everything in life can always change.
And that’s how it all came to be. “How to Become the Master of Your Fate and the Captain of Your Soul? 144 Valuable Thoughts for a Valuable Life.” All these ideas, thoughts, and tools have changed my life and my perspective on life. Hand on heart. They have only made my life better. Otherwise, I wouldn’t share this publicly.
But let’s be realistic. I’m not such a self-development person that I would sit under a tree and just imagine golden light falling on me and everything resolving itself. Nope. You won’t find fiction in this book.
If you are looking for deep self-exploration, long philosophical musings, a soft approach, intense deep analysis, and lengthy discussions, then this book is not for you. It contains concrete life truths that help you set goals in life and understand things. Short reflections that should make you ponder your situation and take certain steps. Motivate and inspire, because everything is yours to create. You choose what you want in your life. It’s within our power.
I am still learning and practicing too, but thanks to this information, I know that life doesn’t have to be so damn complicated, and now I can master the art of living much better than before.
P.S. I probably didn’t know how to do it at all before!
P.P.S. If you are fascinated by all sorts of therapists and perhaps even dependent on these topics, I don’t recommend this book – it states that only you are responsible. That’s all. And it provides valuable ideas on how to take on that responsibility.
Since I like concreteness, all these guidelines and thoughts are concrete. Sometimes even commanding. Short. Thought-provoking. This book is not meant to be read in one go. It is meant to be your friend when the going gets tough. Flip through, find your thought, and apply it.
The most important thing is that you actually have to apply all of this. This book helps you take responsibility for your life and happiness, to be the master of your fate. Thanks to this information, I can better manage my thoughts and emotions. I take life much easier, not so seriously anymore. I know how to set goals and how to stay on track, but it requires practice. I know who I am and what I want. I know the tools to achieve all this. I know it requires persistence and supportive habits. No change comes overnight. Some do come overnight. I learned to find solutions to problems and not give up. I learned to listen to my intuition.
I know that my life and thoughts are mine to control, within my power, and only I am responsible for ensuring that I am well. If I am well, goodness spreads to my family, so they are well too. I take more care to ensure my cup is full because otherwise, I have nothing to give to others. These are all such simple truths, but I didn’t know them before! I didn’t know that everything can be much easier!
You will find here an excellent springboard if you are on the path of self-development, a great jump forward! Totally! You will get all the necessary foundations to immediately start feeling better and moving in a much better direction! Trust me! I am your living proof.
This is your springboard into the unknown, but a much cooler and more fulfilling unknown! Allow yourself to start! From here, everything can only get better. But only thanks to your own contribution. Don’t fall into society’s trap, which is an illusion of what should really make people happy. Fortunately or unfortunately, not everyone chooses this information. But you have the opportunity to do so and take a huge step forward in life. Will you join me? This is my invitation to you, to be extraordinary, to choose more.
Here is your chance to download this e-book at a special price in June! https://wonderfullife.motospirit.ee/
I have to thank life philosophers Jesse Elder, Mike Kemski, from whom my journey of self-discovery and mastering the art of living began. Marie Forleo and B-School. Mel Robbins and her podcasts. I am just starting with Mindvalley, but I will share my insights from there as they arise.
